Comments on: Can Men and Women be Friends… only?

By: John

John — Tue, 29 Dec 2009 23:51:17 +0000

as Male this is so simple! If you are not good looking to me but have a nice personality with plenty of single friends to hook me up with we can be friends! But if you are good looking in my eyes I will either want to get into to your panties or have you as my gf.No way I can be friends with a girl I like and have to be jealous and hear her dating problems.

By: amy

amy — Sat, 22 Aug 2009 07:07:00 +0000

It seems that women can be friends with men, but men can’t be real friends with women.

By: Christie-The ChatterBox

Christie-The ChatterBox — Wed, 08 Jul 2009 14:57:00 +0000

Oh the many many many many things I could say to this post right now! I should make this a ChatterBox Show topic one day…but I could get in trouble for it.

By: SpringHawk

SpringHawk — Wed, 01 Apr 2009 01:44:12 +0000

men and women can NEVER be friends !!!
here's the scenario:
A man and a woman start out as friends. But then the woman starts dating ANOTHER man. This other man will say, "who is this guy who keeps calling you? Get rid of him !!!" Thus, the two original friends are forced to part ways.

Can you dig it ???

By: Mar's Bar

Mar's Bar — Fri, 30 Jan 2009 01:54:32 +0000

I think if you are in a romantic relationship with someone, then it can be difficult for both parties to accept that their spouse continues to share valuable emotion time with other people. While I agree that you cannot get everything from your spouse, it is vital that the relationship with your spouse comes first.
The case that was written about is an anomaly. She had been friends for 25 years with these men and because her spouse and her negotiated boundaries, it made the relationship work out. If you do not negotiate those boundaries early on, and state whether you truly are comfortable with your spouse sharing their emotional time with someone else, then it will work out. The minute that your spouse isn't comfortable with it, you have to rethink how those other relationships factor into your life. You made a commitment with your spouse, not your friends, and that should always be upheld before pursuing friendships with members of the opposite gender.

By: Rather Not Say My Name!

Rather Not Say My Name! — Thu, 08 Jan 2009 20:48:11 +0000

It can be done but in my case… I am still sleeping with my xhusband. I have had plenty of male friends that I never slept with even though I found them very attractive. In fact, I have only slept with 2 men in my entire life. Am I the odd woman out?

By: Tina B. Tessina, PhD "Dr Romance"

Tina B. Tessina, PhD "Dr Romance" — Thu, 04 Dec 2008 07:24:40 +0000

Great post, gave me a lot to think about. I see many singles and marrieds who have other-sex friendships, and it can work.

We're talking all things romance at the Dr. Romance blog.

By: Juan T.

Juan T. — Tue, 02 Dec 2008 23:20:48 +0000

Wow. It is very true that we start friendship trying to score with a woman that becomes a friend first. But, I have two women best friends that are very attractive and at first I tried to go out with them. One wasmarried at the time and we became very good friends, she divorced and now she dates someone but we are still best friends. The second one, is another friend that is very pretty but I realized soon that I wasn’t her type and she also was going through a separation/divorce soon after I met her. Then I met her sister, and we became romantically involved; broke out with her sister and we are still great friends.

By: Curtz

Curtz — Tue, 02 Dec 2008 21:50:20 +0000

Hello,
I saw the movie, ‘When Harry Met Sally’ partly on television years ago. It is a classic and revealed the comic complications of a platonic relationship. I agree with you regarding the strong emotions involved in this romantic friendship. In my view platonic relationships are unsuitable and could lead to serious problems especally if the two are married to other persons.
I see nothing wrong however of two, trustworthy persons of the opposite sex having a close friendship-with limitations. But if these friends are single and become strongly attached to each other. They must not linger to decide where to direct their relationship, next step-an official courtship. And then the courtship would be a stepping stone toward marriage. Otherwise it would be wrong to toy with each other feelings knowing such true love will go unfulfilled. This is my view point in part.

Regards,
Curtz
http://cxpectations.blogspot.com
http://curtisonthenews.blogspot.com

By: Infinity

Infinity — Tue, 02 Dec 2008 03:12:08 +0000

I used to have this problem all the time. And eventually, I just made the decision that it is completely healthy to have women as friends of mine.

And the best relationships are the ones that are built upon the foundation of friendships.

At first, it was about having the will to not just be attracted to any female that wanted to get to know me. Now, it's about the experience of the interaction, making friends and establishing connections.

Relieving myself of that stress was a huge step for me.