Blog-In: Sometimes the Problem with Women… is Women
We wrap up the Blog-in today with Jackie Morgan MacDougall, the mom of three perfect children under five who balances work and home life with ease. When she’s not learning a foreign language or volunteering overseas, she spends her nights making gourmet meals, doing Pilates and canoodling with her husband. She also likes to drink mass quantities of wine before writing her 100% truthful bio. (hiccup)
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Sometimes the Problem with Women… is Women
If I weren’t married, I would kiss Charles Orlando right on the face (although that hot wife of his might not like it either). Think about the message in his book “The Problem with Women… is Men.” If it were left up to a woman to tell her husband that he’s partially (if not entirely) responsible for certain issues in the marriage, he’d probably get all defensive, reacting by either lashing out, pulling back or cracking open a cold one – or all three. Haven’t we all been there?
But hearing it from another guy is different. Men are on the same team, have each other’s backs. Guys aren’t put on this earth to nag or change each other — they’re bros!
Girls, I’m here to do the same for you.
How many of you have dished with your girlfriends about how marriage and parenthood has sucked the life out of you? (I’m raising my hand right along with you.) Perhaps you even stopped shaving your legs or, God forbid, brought your favorite single-girl, worn-out sweats back into the bedtime rotation. (GASP!) But before you give up on yourself for good, think about this…
There is a woman right around the corner just waiting to knock your man’s socks off.
Don’t believe me? Take a trip down memory lane and remember the slim pickins when you were on the market. I hear the options haven’t gotten much better.
Stop whining with the excuses — I swear I can hear you from here! So you packed on a couple of pounds and new wrinkles and roots are constantly showing up unannounced. We all get older, ladies. But what would you say if you knew that your man doesn’t give a rat’s ass about any of that! He just wants you to stop folding the damn laundry and look at him like he’s the man you couldn’t keep your hands off of just a few short years ago.
How do I know? These situations don’t just happen in Lifetime movies. I’ve seen men stray, leaving their women – even some of my friends – devastated. The loving and devoted husband, rejected day after day, week after week, goes to work, (or rides the train, or takes that bi-weekly business trip) and meets a woman who actually cares enough about herself to take a shower before 4:00 p.m. (Oh please, do NOT tell me you don’t have time for hygiene.) She notices that your husband is smart, funny and not bad on the eyes — you know, the things you used to see yourself. What starts as an ego boost quickly spirals out of control and you find yourself angry that you were screwed over so badly, the victim of a lying, cheating bastard.
Listen, I am NOT saying anyone has the right to be unfaithful — emotionally OR physically. But what I am saying is we all do it – wait for the perfect time to feel “in the mood,” or choose to finish chores during the baby’s nap time, or pass out in a toddler bed before prime time TV even starts. I get it, I’m freakin’ exhausted myself. But clean laundry isn’t going to keep our marriages happy and healthy… is it?
Let’s make a pact – right here and now. My personal challenge to you is to let go of perfection RIGHT NOW. Let’s stop trying to save the world, trying doing it all, and do our men instead, shall we?
You’ll thank me later. And so will he.
You can read more from Jackie at her blog: Taiwan-on.com
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4 Responses to “Blog-In: Sometimes the Problem with Women… is Women”
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Tabitha Says:
April 30th, 2009 at 4:31 pmTHANK YOU! i agree 100%. my husband and i have to make sure that we make time for us. if i don’t get our "us time" i get a little upset. even if we are not having sex and just together, i need that more than i need my "me time".
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The Daily Blonde Says:
April 30th, 2009 at 5:47 pmTHIS post is by far the best post I’ve read in a LONG time. I tell women this ALL THE TIME. In fact, I lost a friendship over it. A few years ago, I had a close friend who simply ignored life. She didn’t clean, rarely cooked, took care of her 3 children in just the most basic of ways and used the excuse of being "tired" to not have sex with her hubby.
Mind you, she let herself "go". She was overweight…a once gorgeous woman who thought her hubby would never leave, so why bother. She rarely did her hair (used one of those icky banana clips in her hair all day). Being comfortable is one thing…not caring is another.
Her husband….cooked, cleaned the best he could (house was a sty), played with the kids and adored his wife. AND he worked as the head chef for a huge restaurant 60+ hours a week.
I told her: "One day, he will turn his head….maybe….but one day he’ll have enough. YOU need to put some effort in here."
She told me to go to hell and asked me if I wanted to steal her husband. NO. I wanted to tell her how LUCKY she was to have someone who adored her…no matter what. But he was frustrated and tired, too.
I’ve never spoken to her again. I moved away from the neighborhood and hear that they are still married. He’s a good man. Great looking. No shlep. And he stood by her…but that’s not always the case.
A+++++++++++++++++++++++++++++ post.
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Dede Says:
May 2nd, 2009 at 6:41 amI agree with you in part. However, MANY men do not pay attention to their wives. All the sex in the world is not necessarily going to solve the problem. Not male bashing, but men have to be taught how to treat a woman in many circumstances!
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Nickolas Says:
May 12th, 2009 at 3:15 pmHey I was wondering if I could post this as a blog entry and link back to you on one of my free dating sites by chance? Could you let me know?