‘Cheating’ Category

False Promises, Accountability, and Conan O’Brien

January 13th, 2010

Conan O'Brien on the Tonight ShowIt’s hot news. NBC is altering its late night schedule to solve its primetime issues—mostly with The Jay Leno Show—and Conan O’Brien is in the crosshairs. He is a man with seemingly no where to go. He doesn’t want to acquiesce to the Power That Be and move The Tonight Show to a new timeslot (after over 60 years of following the local 11:00 News). Doing so, Conan feels, would “seriously damage what I consider to be the greatest franchise in the history of broadcasting,” (not to mention, it would put a dent in the viewers/ratings of Jimmy Fallon’s newly-acquired Late Night).

These circumstances instantly struck a chord with me, and got me thinking about the dynamics of many relationships. If we contrast the Late Night TV Debacle with romantic relationships:
A romantic relationship starts with a courting period, where the pursuer chases what they want (or think they want)… and it’s the same with NBC. They felt that Jay Leno’s time was waning, and they took a proactive approach to fill the perceived gap. They chased Conan and “courted” him with the promise of what he always wanted—The Tonight Show—and added in cash and incentives to sweeten the deal. If I didn’t know better, it would seem that NBC cheated on Jay Leno and had a well-publicized affair with Conan O’Brien. They even planned Conan’s “move-in date” while Jay was still “living there.”

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An Open Letter to Tiger Woods

December 18th, 2009

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Dear Mr. Woods:

I’ve been unintentionally following your private life, and I wanted to apologize. Based on what I’ve been exposed to, it’s clear that you have your hands full with marital and family challenges. But being that the public at-large has become polarized—choosing to either join the bashing band wagon or to commend you for your womanizing—and also being that I have no shortage of opinion, I wanted to weigh-in.

Firstly, I wanted to applaud your initial silence and “bowing out” of providing a public apology. As a 17-year marketing veteran, I could plainly see the need for crisis management. And if I were your PR consultant, I would have been BEGGING you to issue a public statement and to “control the spin” right from the start. However, as a man, father and husband, I can only say that your silence was respected—and your televised (and largely scripted) apology unnecessary. After all, you just caused potentially irreparable damage to your marriage, and your efforts belong there, fixing it… not giving an apology to people you don’t know and have never met. You are a professional athlete… nothing more. I marvel at your exploits on the golf course, but you don’t owe me an explanation of why you aren’t faithful to your wife. That explanation is due to her, not me, not to your fans, and not to the public.

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Flings, Affairs, and Online Infidelity

November 11th, 2009

cheatingRecently, I’ve been asked a lot of questions (via email) regarding infidelity… from both men and women. And as there are many new visitors to this blog (men) attempting to discern what my message is, allow me to make it clear: Men and women both cheat. Their motivations are very different (and you can read that article here), but cheating is still cheating… period.

First off, allow me to state that monogamy isn’t for everyone. In fact, many argue that it’s not a “natural state” for men. In many ways, I think those people are right. DNA-wise, both genders are driven by primal instincts to continue our species, not concentrate on the sanctity of marriage. However, humans now claim to be civilized… and if a person decides to delve into the world of commitment, marriage and fidelity, they should hold to the ideals that accompany that choice. However, that doesn’t seem to hold true in today’s world of disposable marriages.

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