‘Dating’ Category
The Untold Secrets of Successful Relationships
March 8th, 2010
I’ve long suggested that a successful relationship or marriage takes effort, not “work”. Oftentimes, Work is that thing you must do in order to have time and flexibility for the things you really care about. Effort is what you put in to activities you care about… that you are most passionate about making succeed. In short, Effort is a driving force behind a great partnership and marriage. But there are secrets beyond just putting in effort and maintaining open lines of communication.
Separate and joint interests. Couples that invest in each other and build their lives together, stay together. People are also individuals… an they most definitely have to have their own life (read: outside activities that are YOURS), but need to keep time together… even if you have to schedule it (a la the “Date Night”). And they don’t necessarily need to be in-common activities. Case-in-point:
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Keeping the Spark in Long-Term Relationships
March 4th, 2010Read the rest of this entry »
If you’ve been in a relationship for a while, you know how things can get. The humdrum of life (kids, chores, finances, work, commutes, house maintenance) can get you down. To keep a long-term relationship healthy, sometimes you have to return to the passion and allure that attracted the two of you in the first place. Need a jumpstart? Here’s a few tips:
The Guys’ Code
January 19th, 2010Read the rest of this entry »
Over the past year (since my book was first published), the list of negative nicknames I’ve been called—as well as the amount of hate mail in my inbox—has grown. The vast majority of these idioms and flamemails are written by men (I’ll address my opinion on their motivations in a different article), but they all share a common thread. Either I’ve: 1) Broken the Guy’s Code; 2) I’m a feminist/misandrist or a “Beta Male” (which they mean as a wimpy, watered down version of a man; or 3) I’m patronizing/sucking up to women in order to (and I quote) “tell them what they want to hear, so I can get laid after a book signing.”