‘Empowerment’ Category
Bad Relationships: Is it ALL Men’s Fault?
August 28th, 2009Regular readers of my blog and book know my feelings on failed relationships. For those just becoming acquainted with me, my views or my writing, I put significant onus on men, their lack of involvement and/or commitment, and their resentment of being demanded to put more into their relationships. (And as a reminder, I’m speaking generally about men here. There are plenty of men that are making better choices for their relationships… and if you are, I’m not referring to you. Congrats on working on yourself… I am, too.)
Since the publishing of The Problem with Women… is Men, I’ve been accused of breaking The Guy’s Code and letting men swing in the wind while “telling women what they want to hear in order to sell more books”. Sorry, but I need to call “Bullshit!” on that statement, as I have at least 10-times as much content on my blog as there is in my book… and that research/writing is free. I think my favorite bash was from some misogynistic clown on YouTube (posting under a pseudonym, of course) who saw my interview on Bay Sunday, and emailed me to tell me that I was “King of the Manginas”. (At some point, I need to have that shirt made at CaféPress.)
Here’s the interview:
The Saturday Guy
August 14th, 2009
When first dating, men usually go above and beyond in their efforts to listen, please, and participate — romantically, physically, and monetarily. However, once they have put in the initial effort and their needs start being met, behavior changes and the effort they’ve been putting in slows. Often, men then start providing the bare minimum required, leaving women wondering what the hell happened, and why he is putting in less and less (as she started putting more into the relationship to compensate). Nowhere is this more glaring than on weekends.
If a man works all week, most often he looks his best Monday through Friday — shaven, pressed, combed, and spritzed with pleasant scents. And if Friday brings date night, that effort might stay at the forefront. But then,
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Gender bias in middle school?
June 1st, 2009
I dropped my kids off at school this morning, and was greeted with a call from the school office no more than three minutes later. The woman on the other end of the line was irritated and annoyed … with ME.
“Mr. Orlando? I have Jordan [my 11-year-old daughter] in the office here. She is wearing clothing that is inappropriate for school. I’ll need you to pick her up and have her change before returning to the campus.”
Confused, I hung a U-turn, my mind whirring, trying to remember what she had been wearing that morning. Did I miss something and she threw her modesty to the wind, midriff exposed for the entire fifth grade class to see? Jordan is feisty … but most assuredly not trying to be “sexy.” By the time I reached the school, I’d remembered that she had on a normal (read: mid-thigh) pair of shorts, and a short-sleeved shirt that covered her torso completely.
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